Assumptions are the termites of relationship.
In a world full of social media-facebook, instagram and snapchat we tend to know everything about other people. (Social media made us all full-time stalkers). Instead of asking someone about something and actually sharing view points on details of some events we assume things from snapchat streaks and stories.
Disclaimer: I ain’t against any social media stuffs, I myself m too indulged into that. This is a mere try to make people actually talk and be more real in real life and not on reel life.
Communication is important right from the moment we are born. With parents, with siblings, friends’ family, your spouse damn everyone. This one thing can make a relationship. But people these days will try every sort of other thing rather than simply communicate to one another. We assume things, which we are often afraid to ask. But, but, but whatever it is…..
Communicate, talk about things, the good, the bad. Build trusts. Be honest. Be faithful. Be there for one another. Make time from one another. Leave the past to the past. Know that having arguments is normal. Know that you won’t always be happy. Don’t expect change. Appreciate the flaws. Appreciate each other. Become best friends. Lastly, love each other unconditionally.
To easily forget things and initiate a conversation ain’t easy, and it doesn’t come overnight. People practice in order to remain on grounds and be the initiator of convo. So many misunderstandings, fights and what not can be resolved on a first note. You don’t always have to say sorry, simply asking and showing your efforts for a conversation can do miracles. Communication these days has become a formality.
“How are you?”
“M fine, what about you?”
“M good too!”
Is this really a conversation? I mean the person on that side of screen doesn’t really care, he/she simply pretends for sake of formality mostly. Meeting your friends daily, chatting to a long distance friend everyday ain’t a conversation, but even if you talk after 15 days, you know what exactly is going on in your friend’s life and how that person has been past 15 days. But if you keep waiting and let your ego/pride keep you from expressing how you feel, nothing will ever get fixed. You need to talk, to grow together. We often blame lack of understanding for fights, but to develop understanding you first need to communicate, talk, and know what other person has to say of the what viewpoints exists in his mind. I have heard most sensible people say after any fights or misunderstandings, “Give time, time heals everything, and things would be pretty much fine as before.” But this is probably the worst solution to solve anything. Like we spoiled things, so eventually we should be acting responsible one and solving them. Because giving time to heal things will lead to new misunderstandings and suspicions. Instead sit down, talk to each other, and argue more (cause that’s how you share your view points).
Most important thing every fight involves two or more people, single handed can do nothing. So to solve something efforts from two sides are very much required. There’s one person in a relationship who wants to talk n resolve that we term as “Emotional one”, right? After an argument with a parent, we children often don’t talk and eat and they are the one making efforts always, still we call ourselves cooler than them and they are emotional fools according to us. The only thing this whole generation needs to learn from parents is having tolerance and sacrificing self respect sometimes for some loved ones to take an initiative for communication.
This is the time you look around and make yourself less self-centered to realize how important other people are. Mere argument can’t remove the whole damn person from your life, so get up, take an initiative, apologize for taking too long and make things better before it’s all over. Remember person you love is always more important than that one misunderstanding.
“So, communicate. Even if it’s uncomfortable or uneasy.”