Mastering on your own soul, controlling your own deeds, knowing whats good and whats bad for your own self is where the ultimate power lies.
As the Bible tells it, the first crime committed was a lapse of self-control. Eve was forbidden from tasting the fruit on the tree of knowledge. But the temptation was too much. The fruit was just so “pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom,” Genesis reads. Who wouldnt want that? Humanity was just days old, but already we were succumbing to a vice.
The takeaway from this story was clear: when temptation overcomes willpower, its a moral failing, worthy of punishment.
We always have a dilemma on choosing things between what gives us pleasure in a moment (which might not last long) and what makes you invest for future pleasure, almost everyone will choose things offered in a moment. Obviously world is becoming faster day by day and so are we, why wait long when we get things done in a moment? Heres where all the secret of success lies, before indulging into anything, Sit Back, analyze things, think on it whether it will matter on long term basis or will it benefit? If the thing or a person in front of you isnt going to matter or benefit you in future, owe yourself a self control. Self-control is the ability to regulate and alter responses in order to avoid undesirable behaviors, increase desirable ones, and achieve long-term goals.
Self Control isnt any one night magic, like muscles, the more you exercise self-control on a consistent basis, the stronger you get. But then there lies a magic! After getting strong on your self-control, every decision will make you feel good about you; you get your self-esteem and confidence raised. You also reinforce in your mind what you are capable of makes it less difficult to make similar decisions in life.
While research suggests self-control has its limitations, psychologists have also found that it can be strengthened. Effective strategies include:
Avoid temptation. This is an effective way of making the most of your available self-control. Avoiding temptation ensures that you do not “use up” your available self-control before it is really needed.
Plan ahead. Consider possible situations that might break your resolve. If you are faced with temptation, what actions will you take to avoid giving in? Research has found that planning ahead can improve willpower even in situations where people have experienced the effects of ego depletion.
Practice using self-control. While your control might become depleted in the short-term, regularly engaging in behaviors that require you to exert self-control will improve your willpower over time. Think of self-control as a muscle. While hard work may exhaust the muscle in the short-term, the muscle will grow stronger over time as you continue to work it.
Try focusing on one goal at a time. Setting a lot of goals at once (such as making a list of New Year’s resolutions) is usually an ineffective approach. Depleting your willpower in one area can reduce self-control in others areas. It is best to choose one specific goal and focus your energy on it. Once you turn the behaviors needed to reach a goal into habits, you will not need to devote as much effort toward maintaining them. You can then use your resources to achieve other goals.
Dont take Self-Control as a theory that cant be applied to reality, give it a try, it isnt that difficult! Once you know what do you seek from your life, controling yourself, and choosing between better and best for your life becomes so easy.